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Grief Myth #1: Time Heals All Wounds

I used to believe that all it takes for broken heart to heal is a little time…

Do you remember your first heartbreak?

What was his/her name?

Can you picture them in your mind?

Does the memory of that person still sting?

Who do you know that has been grieving their loved one for decades—with the same intensity of emotions as if it happened last week? Many experts say that it takes a one month of recovery for every year you were together. What if I told you that for any loss, you can begin truly healing within 7 weeks?

Let’s say we were in a car cruising down the road together and all of a sudden we had a flat tire. Would we just pull over, park it, and tell each other that time heals all flat tires? No, we would take clearly defined actions to change it, right? We would make sure we were in a safe spot, get the spare tire and tools, then begin changing the tire.

If healing just took time, then why do some relationships and experiences still hurt months, years, or decades later?

Because the truth is: Time + Action Steps = Healing

When we think about everything we want in life, we take small action steps:

Want to get healthy? Small steps to eat better and exercise can be helpful.

Want a amazing career? Small steps to honing your craft and networking can be helpful.

Want better finances? Small steps to creating a budget and make a plan can be helpful.

As for grief, small action steps, such as giving me a call or scheduling a time to talk can be helpful. If time hasn’t really helped in your healing, maybe it’s time to take a few action steps.

As always, however you are feeling today, you are never alone. I am here for you. I encourage you to give me a call 951.523.7959, send me an email at or schedule a call.

I promise you, I may not know what to say or do, but I can always be a huge heart with ears.

I believe in you,


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