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Grief Myth #4: Be Strong

When have you heard people offer this advice?

For parents whose spouse has died, "You need to be strong for your kids" And vice versa, for kids and helping their parents with their loss, "Be strong for your Mama"

Or how about,

“Crying is for babies”

“You need to man up”

“I’m fine” (this was my favorite response until, well, until I finally admitted that I wasn’t fine).

Did you know that we are like a tea kettle? Think about how a tea kettle works: when the water heats up in the kettle, it gets hot and hotter. When the water reaches beyond boiling point, there's an outlet (a spout) that lets off steam, right?

But let’s say we change it up and put a cork in the spout—similar to stuffing down our feeling