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What if it was all in your head?

Did you know that we have about 70,000 thoughts go through our head a day?

Did you know that about 70-80% of those are negative thoughts?

Annnnnnnd about 95% of those thoughts are repeats from yesterday?

Negative thoughts can be like unwanted visitors that creep into the corners of our minds, casting a shadow on our happiness and well-being. Although negative thoughts are normal, they can definitely impact the way we see ourselves, hinder our success, and ruin our relationships.

How do negative thought patterns form?

Negative thoughts can be self-critical, pessimistic, and disheartening mental feelings and pictures that pop into our minds from time to time.

They can take various forms, such as:





And more.

While they are a normal and natural response to life’s experiences, they can definitely be destructive when they dominate our thinking.

What causes negative thoughts?

Past Experiences: Negative past (even current) experiences can create an open space for negative thoughts to thrive. Traumatic events, failures, or rejection can leave mental and emotional scars, leading to a persistent sense of self-doubt, fear, or other emotions that keep us stuck.

Comparison: How often do you compare yourself to others? Especially in this age of social media, it's easy to fall into the trap. Comparing can become a habit that may trigger feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.

Perfectionism: When we strive to be perfect, we can set ourselves up for constant self-criticism, failure and self-doubt. When we set unrealistic standards, it becomes easier for negative thoughts to creep in.

Stress and Anxiety: High-stress levels and anxiety can make us more susceptible to negative thinking. It's a vicious cycle, as negative thoughts can also add to stress and anxiety.

How do I confront my negative thoughts?

Awareness: We take back control of our minds when we become aware of our negative thoughts. Try paying attention to the thought patterns, especially during times of stress. By giving attention to the thoughts that cross our minds, we begin to recognize when negativity is seeping in and are able to shift them into something more helpful.

Challenge Negative Beliefs: When there’s a negative thought, challenge it. Ask yourself: how true is this? Oftentimes, beliefs may be based on an irrational fear versus fact. Most often, we may find that negative thoughts are not grounded in reality.

Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and empathy that you would offer to a friend. Begin thinking of some things you can say to yourself, then when negative thoughts arise, replace them with these statements that uplift or console.

Seek Support: Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, coach, specialist, or a mental health professional. Talking about your negative thoughts can help release their power and give you a different perspective!

How many negative thoughts do you have a day?

What would your life be like if you there were less negative thoughts?

What is one thing you can do right now to combat negative thoughts?

As always, however you are feeling today, I want you to know that you are never alone. I encourage you to reach out—if not to me, then to someone! 

Give me a call or text at 951.523.7959, send me an email, or click here to schedule a chat.

I believe in you,


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